“No mistakes in the tango, darling. Not like life, simple, that’s what makes the tango so great. If you make a mistake, get all tangled up, you just tango on.”
- Lt. Frank Slade played by Al Pacino, Scent of a Woman
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Man, I love Al Pacino. Ok. Back to me. I am a talkative, dancing, gadget-loving, movie-watching wife and mother that got tangled up in 2004 when I injured my spinal cord. I now use a wheelchair,
and the world has been doom and gloom ever since. No…really…that is what everyone thinks. It hasn’t been a walk in the park (pun was DEFINITELY intended), but I choose to tango on! I live a rich, happy life that is full of laughter and new experiences, but no one believes me. So, one day while listening to India.Arie, I decided to adapt her declarative anthem, “I Am Not My Hair” to suit my defiance of being judged by my wheels. And so my newest love was born!
Welcome to I Am Not My Chair: a virtual soapbox that was built for your edutainment.
I decided to created this blog to dispel the myth that people who use wheelchairs live these pitiful, boring lives full of despair. Don’t get me wrong, “life for me ain’t been no crystal stair” (a superb poem for you to check out), but if you don’t already know, you’ll soon realize that I don’t easily back down from anything. I look at that pair of jeans on the top shelf of a department store or steer around the cracks and holes on DC’s immaculately surfaced sidewalks screaming, “CHAL-LUNGE” like Sandman Simms tap-dancing on “The Cosby Show.”
My goal is to inspire you to be the best YOU that you can be. Sounds cliche, I know. But, you’ve got one shot at life and you have to make the most of it. There’s no other option. You can’t choose your circumstances, but you can choose how to react to them. You may not use a wheelchair like me. You may be a single mom. Or maybe you’ve been searching for a job for the past 18 months. Maybe you just got a bad haircut and your first date with the girl you’ve been checking out is in less than an hour. Whatever it is you are dealing with, you can handle it. I promise you.
I’m no self-help guru. I use my experiences, the good ones and the not-so-good ones, to teach myself and anyone listening how to adjust to them, if not avoid them altogether.
Martin Luther King, Jr. once said, “If you can’t fly, then run. If you can’t run, then walk. If you can’t walk, then crawl. But whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward.” And that’s precisely what I intend to do.
P.S. Let me tell you who/what I am not: Handicapped, Crippled, Wheelchair-bound, Demoralized, Depressed, Sad or Unhappy. And if you call me any of these names, I just may accidentally run into the back of your ankles. You’ve been warned!